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I am getting old! Old, old, old, old, old! On May 13, I will be out of high school for 10 years! Did you hear me; 10 years! Okay, okay, I am over it.. Everyone is getting married, engaged, have like two children. I just get light weight annoyed everytime I hear someone from high school is either engaged or married! ESPECIALLY, when they post their pics up on facebook! LMAO! I am such a hater, I know and I will stop. But for real, when I see these people I have to figure out some interesting stuff to tell them so I wont look like such a lame.
Ten years ago today, I had an afro and wore a backpack most of them time. I was real eclectic, thought Common was the greatest thing close to GOD, smoking beedis was in (even though I never smoked any) and Lauryn Hill just dropped the Miseducation. I wore headwraps to school and had a mean boyfriend. High school was a confusing time for me, I was steadily trying to find myself.
How do you or did you feel about your 10 year reunion?
Monday, February 16, 2009
Sunday, February 15, 2009
Dating and Playing the Race Card
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I am sure everyone reading this blog has watched or attempted to watch the latest Chris Rock stand up show. He expressed his views on interracial dating and he said: Black women get upset about black men dating white woman....all black men have done is exercised their options...then he said the real reason black women get angry is because they are not attracted to white men.. so they cant exercise their option.. they will sleep with "pretty white boys" but black women are not attracted to white men in general.
For the past few weeks I have been pursued by someone other than a IBM. For those who are not familiar with IBM, it means, intelligent Black man. After several failed attempts at dating, I decided to broaden my options and see what this man is about. I can honestly say that I am having the time of my life. Everything is just different with him. He provide me with the time and attention I desire and is not afraid to talk and ask questions.
This post is not to bash black men, I love brothas but why does it take for me to go outside of my race to feel appreciated? Not just appreciated because I helped him with this or because I did that, but appreciated because I am a woman and a good person. With this situation there is never a "ass, gas or cash" concept, lets go half on lunch, take me to Wal-Mart, I need, I need, I need. He doesn't make me feel I owe him something because he took me to dinner. My cousin said it best: I wanna be with a black man, I really do. Its just Black men makes us feel so insecure. I am sorry fellas, but a lot of times, its like that.
I agree with Chris Rock, we sistas need to broaden our options a little bit. Please don't mistake this as desperation. Sometimes Black folks consider a woman dating outside of her race as desperation. I am not desperate, its just that everyone deserves to be loved. No matter what color they are. I dedicate this post to the brothers reading this in the event that they will step their game up. I know all of you all aren't like this but those who are are making you look bad.
Toya Louise
I am sure everyone reading this blog has watched or attempted to watch the latest Chris Rock stand up show. He expressed his views on interracial dating and he said: Black women get upset about black men dating white woman....all black men have done is exercised their options...then he said the real reason black women get angry is because they are not attracted to white men.. so they cant exercise their option.. they will sleep with "pretty white boys" but black women are not attracted to white men in general.
For the past few weeks I have been pursued by someone other than a IBM. For those who are not familiar with IBM, it means, intelligent Black man. After several failed attempts at dating, I decided to broaden my options and see what this man is about. I can honestly say that I am having the time of my life. Everything is just different with him. He provide me with the time and attention I desire and is not afraid to talk and ask questions.
This post is not to bash black men, I love brothas but why does it take for me to go outside of my race to feel appreciated? Not just appreciated because I helped him with this or because I did that, but appreciated because I am a woman and a good person. With this situation there is never a "ass, gas or cash" concept, lets go half on lunch, take me to Wal-Mart, I need, I need, I need. He doesn't make me feel I owe him something because he took me to dinner. My cousin said it best: I wanna be with a black man, I really do. Its just Black men makes us feel so insecure. I am sorry fellas, but a lot of times, its like that.
I agree with Chris Rock, we sistas need to broaden our options a little bit. Please don't mistake this as desperation. Sometimes Black folks consider a woman dating outside of her race as desperation. I am not desperate, its just that everyone deserves to be loved. No matter what color they are. I dedicate this post to the brothers reading this in the event that they will step their game up. I know all of you all aren't like this but those who are are making you look bad.
Toya Louise
Welcome to Toya Louise!
Hey u~
Greetings from Toya Louise! I decided to create this blog to share some of my experiences, educate or enlighten those who are dealing with the issues of today's women and to let ALL women know that you are not alone. We all share the some of the same stories and experiences and I look forward to reading your comments on all topics that will be posted!
Love and Laughter,
Toya Louise
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